Coping with Trauma
Feelings of shock, sadness, grief, fear, anger, guilt and helplessness are all normal in times of tragedy or sorrow. Our bodies often react to stress too, and some people may find that they have trouble sleeping or experience other physical symptoms.
What should I do?
If things are getting too much:
Most people find that with the support of family and friends, the feelings they experience after a traumatic event gradually reduce after about a month. However, if your feelings are too much for you or continue for too long, it is good to seek further help. Your GP is a good place to start. Insight Inishowen also offers a Counselling Service.
What should I do?
- Give yourself time - everybody is different. Be patient with yourself as you process what has happened. Most people find that the strongest feelings gradually reduce after about a month or so.
- Find out what happened - avoid rumours and speculation. It is good to focus on the facts rather than wondering or imagining what may have happened.
- Get some support - It is good to have friends and family standing with you. Asking for help is a sign of strength. Share a cuppa, a hug or take a walk together.
- Talk it over - it is good to talk through what you are thinking and feeling rather than bottling it up. Family and friends are a great place to start - they know you and love you best. Remember there are also counsellors you can talk to if you’d like someone who is not directly connected with you or if you are feeling overwhelmed.
- Join with others - Take part in appropriate memorials or services. Lay flowers. Sign a book of condolence. Light a candle. The simple act of being united in grief or solidarity can be a comfort.
- Take time for yourself - Be kind to yourself. You know best what you need - a long walk or time with family or a loved one or just a chance to stop and have a cup of tea. You may need extra sleep , that’s okay. Give yourself permission to rest and recover!
- Get back into a routine - doing normal, every-day things can really help us recover from tragic and traumatic events.
If things are getting too much:
Most people find that with the support of family and friends, the feelings they experience after a traumatic event gradually reduce after about a month. However, if your feelings are too much for you or continue for too long, it is good to seek further help. Your GP is a good place to start. Insight Inishowen also offers a Counselling Service.